The 7 Reasons Why You Fail to Recover from Depression

Do you know why you've failed to recover from severe depressiveness? Here are the rundown of yours and most people’s failed attempts. It's a history of pain and traumas. The progression of the illness goes like this:

After one’s inability to overcome the initial TRAUMAS, he or she will eventually initiate a full system shut down. It is a defense mechanism. It supposed to help one avoid further aggravation. When things get too overwhelmed we naturally back-set and reserve our functionality. It may seem safer to run and hide than to fight. It’s a way to DELAY PAIN. People talk about nervous shut down a lot, but they imply an emotional episode that is extreme yet temporary. I'm referring to shut down of both body and mind. It cause a person to detach emotionally, mentally and physically from life. This is why you fail.

That's how people accept this heavy load and go crumbling down. Severe or psychotic depression overshadows a person like a massive cloud. It goes back to the day you first felt sharply hurt. Life shook up under your feet. You felt off balance. You've fought. Then you’ve given up. You might have already tried again and again many times. It didn't do any good.

In a personal standpoint, one often becomes stunt under the stress of TRAUMATIC experiences. Slowly, milder symptoms turn severe. Where things have been gentle and easy suddenly rise up like the wild sea. You are psychotic. We all have the instinct to stand back up, even as you’ve gone mad. But what if you continue to lose? The troubles are bigger than you. You are in for a bully ride.

You give up on the energy of sunlight. A good summer day no longer excite you. The sounds of birds no longer interest you. Food loses its flavors. Your senses are all there, but they’re absent. This is the first gate into severe depression. Total destruction is due to come, like a flower due to wither away. It is a way to affirm that you think life is rotten and you will not care.

A space in your possession is like a leaf left in the winter air. You will deface everything around you, through total neglect. Instead of washing your clothes on Friday afternoon like you usually do, you let it go till the next weekend. Then another week goes by and it piles up quietly. Dusts collect around your room in layers. Everything dulls out. Not that you don't notice it, you just rather ignore it. You reason that there is no harm, as there is no good.

Your focus is all in the mind, where the problem is. Those who turn to alcohol and drugs further intoxicate their body and enable faster damage. Others who skip relationships to seek comfort may expose themselves to dangerous viral infections such as AIDS or set themselves up for a dangerous life on the street. These depressive lifestyles lead people to poor hygiene and malnutrition. Their body withstands prolonged deprivation.  

As the problems get bigger and bigger in your mind, you stop noticing the demands of your body. You SHOWER LESS often. Grooming and fashion feel unnecessary. Forget about visiting your dentist or your doctor. Health checkup is a thing of THE FUTURE, which no longer have much value to you.

You could be hibernating. You purposefully avoid social events and interpersonal situations. You stop talking to your best friends and family. Emotionally, you begin to stop respond to cues or internal reception of stimuli. Why? Getting involved make you feel vulnerable. Responding to stimuli hasn't served you well.

Human hibernation is the result of civilization. It is more and more acceptable to retreat back into your own space. Your privacy and your freedom to choose are to be respected. You choose when to interact and when to withdraw. People often face mental health illness alone. They have dissociated from all relevant relationships. They slowly discard all their belief systems. They even distrust themselves and their own view of the world; and the people in it.

You could maintain so well as SEVERE SYMPTOMS arrive and as the SHADOW OF SOCIAL STIGMA sets in. The moment you identify yourself with being mentally ill, YOU ARE sold into social stigma against mental health. If you feel trapped, you are.

Practically half the people in a recent study said, “No, they won’t tell a doctor about depression.” The No. 1 reason: (23 percent) FEAR OF ANTIDEPRESSANTS. Going to psychotherapy and treatment is an EXPOSURE. It is an official way to tell the world that you are mentally ill. Stigma has it that if you are coming down with mental health symptoms, that you are NOT NORMAL. You are enemy of this perfectly sane world.

It is much like AIDS, nobody wants having anything to do with you. Those who interact with you constantly misunderstand and make assumptions about you.  These are major roadblocks to your recovery.

When symptoms get severe enough, they limit many of your functions. You'll have to deal with PHYSICAL AILMENTS such as headaches, body aches and pain, lingering fatigue, insomnia, and daytime sluggishness. Severe depression is capable of producing phantoms in THE MIND. It brings you down with confusion, fears, anger, melancholy and psychosis.  The question comes to: Will PSYCHOTIC SYMPTOMS be brief, frequent or constantly bothersome? Will they go away?

Once you have become seriously sick like this, it will be difficult for you to make SOUND DECISIONS or any decision at all. It now makes sense why people want a QUICK FIX.  This is understandable. It is hard to think otherwise. Being seriously ill, quick fix is good.

Excessive damage is already done; if you would still want an overnight fix, start undoing the damage you’ve done, to your body and your mind. If you realize that much of the progression of the illness is due to your doing, stop withdrawing and start reaching for solutions.

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